Unconditional love in childhood is the foundation of all healthy relationships in adulthood. What does true respect and empathy mean in a relationship!
When I think deeply about it, it's hard to create something that I never experienced. I didn't. "The difficult and difficult part of life is right here when we recognize the repetitive patterns of the past and gradually try to experience something that is different from them. But this change does not happen overnight. Sometimes we need to give ourselves time to find a path. Let's create a way that brings more love, security and stability to our world
So perhaps awareness is the first step of this path, but it is experience that leads us to change."
Unconditional love is a key factor for children to build complete self-confidence for their adulthood. If our existence is accepted in childhood and our primary caregivers are supportive and attentive, there is a greater chance that we will grow up to be relatively independent individuals with a great sense of self-acceptance [self-esteem]. In this situation, happiness, which means "complete fascination with life", being kind, focused, free, is much easier to achieve. It can create an unhealthy pattern of trying to get love that we never got. Although most people who read articles like this know the power of unconditional love, it's hard for them to recognize it. Therefore, the fundamental question is, what exactly does unconditional love mean?
Unconditional love is not a passive, take-it-all frame of mind that never says "no" to a child or teaches the skills necessary to become a loving, efficient, and responsible adult. Therefore, unconditional love certainly does not mean that we allow children to spend as much time as they want on computer games, TV programs, etc. Many parents ignore the countless hours that children spend on social networks and video games. We all know how harmful this is. Findings show that depression, loneliness and anxiety are increasing in children, especially in children who spend 2 hours or more on social networks.
Happiness takes time: Time to move, communicate, acquire skills, focus on goals, experience failure, enjoy inner peace and sleep. Instead, what society has become is allowing children to be born immature and unable to process their emotions.
Unconditional love is not a lawless location in your home, but a place is in your heart Having a legal home does not mean conditional love. It is called parenting. Having children is sometimes interesting, sweet and enjoyable, and sometimes not. Your unconditional love isn't always appreciated. Children probably hate your stubbornness. So unconditional love means that I love you right now, even when you hate my determination, you resist, you are rebellious, protesting, lethargic and demanding.
To love unconditionally, you must Accept the nature and age conditions of our children, to pay attention to them and understand them.
adoption of the essence of kids
My child has a special kind of intelligence by nature. Howard Garner believes that there are 8 types of intelligence: musical, logical-mathematical, verbal, interpersonal, intrapersonal, bodily movements, spatial and natural. The nature of our children includes sexual orientation, personal tastes, talents and weaknesses. To dismiss children for their feelings is to ignore the fact that emotionality is human nature; Rejecting children because of their thoughts is ignoring the fact that humans need to be curious and free.
Acceptance of Children Age
Children suffer greatly from being pressured to act like little adults. Our expectations must be proportionate. You should not transfer the pressures you feel to your children. Children are very sensitive and notice subtle rejections that come from more or less unconscious expectations. So make sure you feel good enough. If you don't love yourself, it's hard to deal with the behavior of any particular stage.
pay attention to the kids
While focusing too much on the child is the only way to fix the problem, holistic attention is essential. Children need to be seen and validated, otherwise they feel lonely and empty inside. Pay attention: put down your phones and slow down your mind to see the expressions on your children's faces and understand their real feelings, understand their thoughts and meet their many needs. Sometimes paying attention to children means realizing that the child should gradually become independent from you. Sometimes it means to understand what skills he needs to be happy in this world.
understand the baby
Native Americans believe that "loving" means "understanding", real understanding and from the bottom of the heart. That said, I may not approve of everything, but I understand our kids, at least most of the time – perfection belongs to the gods. It's not hard for a good enough mother to apologize to her child and make amends. Perhaps the most important part of loving unconditionally is loving ourselves just as unconditionally. I accept my nature, unconditionally, and understand myself and take care of myself.